The Gold Standard. The Difference Between A Goal Digger and Gold Digger

A gold digger was once identified as a woman who only cared about a man's bank account. In a society where the cost of living is skyrocketing and wages aren't keeping up, the term gold digger is being thrown around very loosely. Not every woman that has a standard for the kind of man she wants to marry is a gold digger. A gold digger wants you to give her shit that she won't get on her own. A Goal Digger won't settle for someone who won't do shit for her, that she can and does do for herself. For some reason, these 2 different kinds of woman are being classified as one in the same and there is a difference.

Why should anyone, man or woman be with someone who doesn't better their situation in one way or another? It doesn't make sense that any woman with goals for the relationship she wants to be in, and standards for the kind of person and lifestyle she wants to lead, is considered a gold digger. If you as a woman do not put a value on yourself no one else will. Why does society label woman with standards as gold diggers? Having standards in a good thing, having high standards is a great thing.

Kanye West wrote the song Gold Digger. (Fun fact, he wrote it for a woman to sing and when the intended artist turned it down he recorded the song himself.) Anyway, when he married Kim Kardashian everyone was saying that "he married the biggest gold digger ever...". First off I want you to examine the lyrics of the song.

"I ain't sayin she a golddigga, but she ain't messin with no broke n***a." Translation for those who don't speak hip-hop. -"I am not saying she's a woman after a man for his money, but she will not pursue a man with little or no money." When you put it like that shit just sounds logical. Right?

I just want to make it clear that there is a difference between a gold digger (a woman who is after material possessions) and a goal digger (a woman with standards) our society has not been able to separate the difference between the 2. If you do not have standards you will most likely end up with someone who does not fulfill your needs. People called Kim a gold digger but why? Kim just made 14 million dollars in 10 minutes with he makeup line last year, no bull shit, look it up. Everyone is talking about how Kanye may need to file for bankruptcy and his wife just pocketed 14 million in less than an hour. Why isn't anyone talking about him taking advantage of her? Isn't that a double standard by definition?

If a man marries a woman who is taking care of herself and it betters his situation why is he not a gold digger? If a woman rejects a man because he doesn't have his shit together when she does; how is she a gold digger? If society want's to consider me a gold digger because I can take care of myself than so be it. I am high maintenance and I know I am spoiled and before we meet a guy I expect him to cater to my wants because when I am single I spoiled myself. I have a good job, my own car, and a nice house. What's the point in getting into a relationship if it is not going to better your situation? If you get with a guy and he doesn't upgrade your standard of living, you are doing something wrong.

So call me a gold digger because I like nice things. Call me a gold digger because I love a man who handles his business. The way I see it I am not a gold digger. I just have standards. I refused to be in a relationship with anyone who would not better my situation. I wasn't expecting anyone to do it for me, but my goal is to find someone who wanted to share everything with me. My goal is to find someone who would be willing to work as hard as I did. So I don't consider myself a gold digger, I am a goal digger. I set a goal for the relationship I want, and I didn't give up or settle for less. If you're not setting goals for the relationship you want you are bound to fail.

Double Standard

Fuck You by Cee-Lo Green. Fuck You is another song about a "gold digger". Cee-Lo gets his heart broken when the girl he's in love with "upgrades". In this song, Cee-Lo is singing about how much he loves this girl but fuck you for leaving me for someone else. "Guess he's an Xbox, I'm more Atari..." "I pity the fool who falls in love with you. Oops, she's a gold digger, just thought you should know n***a." Is she really a gold digger because she found her self a better man? Seriously, he compared her new guy to an Xbox and referred to himself as an Atari. That's like comparing a Ferrari to a Honda. Most people especially woman will not cheat in a happy relationship where the majority of their needs are being met. If you like it you should have put a ring on it, Cee-Lo.

With that being said let us keep up with a musical theme, here's a list of songs, let's see if you can guess what they have in common. -Not Gon' Cry- Mary J. Blige -And I Am Telling You I’m Not Going - Jennifer Hudson -I Who Have Nothing - Shirley Bassey -Back to Black- Amy Winehouse -Irreplaceable- Beyonce -You Outta Know- Alanis Morriset

SURVEY SAYS! Cheating fucking bastards, that's what the list has in common. ALL of these songs are inspired by a good woman who got cheated on. The moral of the story here is that good men and good women do not cheat. Good men and women do not behave in this way. A good man or woman would never betray his spouse or significant others trust like that. If these women had a high standard before they met this guy they probably wouldn't have been cheated on because they would know to avoid a guy like this like the plague, because he's not a good guy.

This is a HUGE reason why being a goal digger is essential to the growth of your soul. If you have standards you won't put yourself in the situations that caused these songs to be written. Namely standing by some loser while he gets his shit together. Then with your help and support, he will get his shit together and dump you. Timing is everything and if he's not in the right place at the beginning of your relationship, that is the standard of mediocrity that has been set for your entire relationship. Once he moves up in the world he's going to move on.

Those words of wisdom can be found in the very last line of the song Gold Digger by Kanye West.

"So, stick by his side, I know his dude's ballin but yea that's nice, And they gonna keep callin and tryin, but you stay right girl and when he get on he leave yo ass for a white girl."

Translation for those who don't speak hip-hop.

So stand by your man, I know there are other men who are better off but you know your man will come up in the world someday so stay strong. But when your man does come up in the world he will probably leave you for a woman who will better his social standings.

(The term white girl in hip-hop doesn't usually have anything to do with the color of your skin, it's just a loose term for a certain kind of female. The Starbucks drinking, Ugg boot wearing, always has the newest iphone type of gal.)

With the right attitude, I think it is possible for 2 people to grow together but most men do not have this type of mentality, but it takes a very mature type of man to allow that kind of relationship into his life. I' pretty convinced that men and women were never meant to live together, after this many years of failing at it you'd think we would learn that we are doing something wrong. The best thing you can ever do for your life is to achieve your dreams on your own. If you don't meet anyone who meets your standards you are better off alone.