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Dear you


Dear you,

Yes you, the person reading this. I know that you are struggling to get through every day. I know that some day’s it’s just harder than others to get out of bed. I know that your loneliness can sometimes feel like it’s too much to handle and you’re not sure how much longer you can take it. I know that sometimes you feel like it’s just easier to give up and that none of your efforts are enough. I know you feel like nothing ever works out for you and there’s no point in fighting this hard. I know that sometimes you feel like there’s something wrong with you and no one could ever understand how broken you really feel inside. I know how you feel and I want you to know that you are not alone.

There are people who have been through worse than this. I’m not saying you have no right to feel the way you do; I’m just saying that you’re sad because your vision is limited. The confinement you have set up for yourself to protect you is actually your enemy. I’m saying that maybe you should try and look at the positive things more instead of the negative by tearing down your walls. When you entrap yourself in your own little world all you can see is one problem after another. It’s like being in a dark room with a flashlight. If you tear down some walls and let some light in you will have a clearer view of the big picture. If you don’t like something about your life, change it. 90% of everything that is wrong with your life is in your control. You will never know how far you can go until you take the first step.

If someone is bringing you down instead of building you up, cut them out of your life. If you hate your job, find a new one. Too many bills, downsize. Depressed, get help. Lonely, find something you love to do and look for a club or group that enjoys the same things you do. Can’t find a job in your field, take anything you can find even if it’s below your paygrade. It’s better to make a little money than none at all and while you’re working the job you hate to pay the bills, focus on how you’re going to get on the path you need to be on. None of these things can happen overnight but they can happen with planning, perseverance and a positive attitude. Just about everything you ever wanted in life can be yours if you decide to work at what you want and don’t give up until you get it. You are over thinking it, it’s really that simple and everything will become easier if you just handle one thing at a time.

You are harder on you than anyone else so when you think you’re doing a good job, you probably are and you should take a moment to congratulate yourself. When you think you look good; you really do look good and you should feel good. Confidence is the best accessory that goes with any outfit. It’s okay if you’re not the most beautiful person who ever lived, you’re not a monster either and what really makes someone beautiful or handsome is the size of their heart. When you think that you have a good idea, make sure you write it down. If you think it’s a good idea, it’s probably worth exploring. If you are feeling alone remind yourself that it’s better to be alone by yourself than alone with someone else. Remind yourself that you are smart and insightful and you have a lot to offer the right person. There is nothing wrong with having high standards and it’s better to save your heart than give it to someone who does not deserve it.

I know how you feel because I feel that way too quite a lot. I used to be in a very dark place that I thought I might never get out of. One day I just decided I was tired of living like this, so I changed. I changed my attitude first and foremost. I said to my self that there are people out there who have overcome much worse circumstances than I have ever faced. Look at Helen Keller, how can I complained about being dyslexic when a blind and deaf woman learned to read. She had help and would never have gotten where she did in life without that help but sometimes you just have to be your own hero. Stop waiting for someone to rescue you, stop waiting for someone to fix things for you, stop waiting for things to happen, make them happen or they will never come your way. The only thing that sucks about getting your shit together is realizing how much time you wasted making excuses. You realize you could have been so much further along at this point if you had started sooner. Make sure that this is your only regret.

No honest person can ever tell you that they have never made a mistake. We all make mistakes but if you accept that what’s done is done and take it as a lesson, it is no longer a mistake, it’s a learning experience. Learn to embrace the things you cannot change because there is nothing else you can do about what has passed, but you can change your mind. You can change the way you deal with life by accepting the fact that holding a grudge or getting angry about your situation is not going to make anything better, only worse. You can change your heart and decide that you are going to be kind to yourself from this moment forward. You are always in charge of your perspective and the way you choose to see things. You are always in charge of your reaction to the things that happen to you. The only regret that you cannot change is the regret of never taking a shot at your dreams. Take that chance, take that trip, make that move, talk to your crush, learn that instrument, take that class, follow your dreams and don’t let anyone ever tell you that your dreams are stupid or unimportant. Every single successful person has failed over and over again but with most things, it only takes 1 time out of a million to get it right and once you’re in, you’re in. Once you know success more success is sure to follow.

Don’t ever forget how amazing you are and how good you are at the things that bring you joy. Never forget to love yourself every day and forgive yourself if things didn’t go the way you thought they would. Never stay angry about anything, learn to let things go. Always remind yourself about the things you are grateful for instead of focusing on what you don’t have. Just because you’re not the best you that you can be now doesn’t mean you never will be, be patient and remind yourself that you are working on it. We are all a work in progress. All you have to do is make a plan and stick with it. Don’t ever give up no matter how bad things might seem. You have come so far already, not everyone is as strong as you. Don’t listen to anyone who says you’re not worth it, they wouldn’t last a day in your shoes. Never ever forget that things will get better and if no one else loves you, love yourself even more. Spoil yourself, you deserve it. <3

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